Oprah talks a lot about forgiveness, so does Dr. Phil. They say that you have to forgive others for yourself. It's not to acknowledge that what they did was ok, but that you forgive them and therefore they have no more power over you. Oprah gave an example for herself, she said that she saw someone one day that she had been holding an angry grudge against for something they had done, when she saw them they were laughing and going on about their day. She realized that they had no clue that she was still angry or holding the grudge. They were living each day without losing energy from holding on to this past contempt. That is when she realized that it only hurts yourself not to forgive and move on. I thought that was a great story. I had a childhood friend that I was harboring some sad and defeated feelings for. After hearing Oprah's story I realized that it was my problem, not theirs. They probably had no clue what I was even feeling and why I had distanced myself. I didn't want to be best friends, but I did realize that the issues I was having were my own hang ups and I needed to move on. The things that I did feel were a fault to this person I also needed to "get over' and move on. There was no good reason to feel the way I did anymore. It only caused me grief and bad feelings. So instead, I forgave and remembered the good memories and left it behind. If God can forgive than so SHOULD we.
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